It’s been a long road. And the road isn’t over yet.
This is me today, and me back in December.
This was a photo that I sent out with a tweet back in February (around Week 12). I felt like a MILLION dollars that day! Those are jeans I wore before Addie was born. Let me say that again…
I FELT LIKE A MILLION DOLLARS!
It really didn’t matter what I actually looked like, or what anyone else thought. All that mattered to me was that in almost 3 years it was the first time that I was wearing non maternity jeans, and I was ecstatic!
Now I’m not going to say there was a six pack under that shirt, or that there wasn’t a pretty decent muffin top going on, but none of that mattered to me.
What mattered is that the hard work was paying off, and I WAS WEARING REAL JEANS!!
To regroup a little with my “Getting Mama’s Groove Back” story…
Erica has been AWESOME! We started working together this past December. She helped me figure out workouts that I could do at home, made suggestions to our meal plans, taught me about cleanses, and was overall one of the best cheerleaders and motivators! No part of losing weight, is fun, but she made it a journey worth doing.
This is where it all started…
As a reminder, I have had 3 children in 3 years. This doesn’t make me special in any particular way, other than to explain the weight. It means that over a 3 year period, there were only 5 months that I was not pregnant. As I found myself pregnant the 2nd and 3rd time, I had only lost 1/2 of the baby weight from each previous baby. Additionally with babies 2 and 3, I was very limited both in time, and in workouts that I was allowed to do.
All of that means that after Piper was born (baby #3) in March 2010, the person that I was looking at in the mirror was not me.
At least not the me I knew.
And that can play a mean head game with you. Very mean.
One of the best things that I did was a 3 day Ritual Cleanse. With my body thinking that my then current weight WAS MY weight, I really needed something to jump start things. Once weight started moving, it became all about finding time for mom. This was not easy mind you. And there were mornings and days that I could not make it work.
But I found that by not going:
1. I did not lose weight those weeks.
2. Eating an extra bite with a meal mattered.
3. I felt more tired and less able to tackle life.
For me to honestly get a workout in, I need to get up for 6AM gym time. Not easy when your kids have been up all night for one reason or another. No matter how badly I feel when the alarm goes off, the feeling AFTER the hour of gym/me time is always worth it! (Shhhh, Just don’t tell Erica I said that…) I would do a morning pilates class with Erica every day of the week if I could!!
When the kids are healthy, being able to add in a few classes a week at Studio Seaside is a gift! The kids think of it as a play date, and it feels like a shot of B12 in my arm for a little ME time. Their Super Mom and Pilates Mat classes are my favorites!
That may be one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in trying to get My Groove Back, to really make it all work, I needed to try to remove to keep stress under control in my life and find a happy balance with Hubs. We both really found that our heads are in SUCH better places if we get some workout time in each week (and I’m trying not to admit to Hubs that he has been telling me this for 7 years…).
I take the mornings a few days a week, and he takes the evenings a few days a week.
We also found that taking one night off acts like a reset button and seems to make us better parents. One night each week my parents come and do the night time routine….dinner, bath, reading, bed. It doesn’t matter what Hubs and I do, as long as it’s none of that routine. It gives us a chance to talk, to hear what the other is doing, share ideas for future projects…a time to be us. And that makes us just feel better as people, which to us, makes us feel better as parents to the Littles. And when you’re feeling good, it just makes you want to keep doing what’s making you feel good…a continuous good feeling circle!!
The other thing I’ll say is that as I’ve gotten older, I’m now 38, I can’t just lose weight as easily as I used to. Not to say that others are the same. Some are just gifted with that nice little ability! Not me unfortunately (darn it!). So it took about 6 weeks of not really seeing things budge, as in BARELY AT ALL.
Yes, clothes were feeling loser, but the scale wasn’t doing very much.
Yes, it was coming off, but not a whole heck of a lot for the effort being given.
Yes, I knew it was working, but it was HARD. Couldn’t I just deal with this “tomorrow”? I’ve got a whole list of things that need attention now.
ANSWER = NO!!
Deal with it NOW!
If you do not make yourself a priority, you will never make yourself a priority!!!
Around Week 6 things started moving, the extra bite at dinner didn’t seem to affect my weight as much….the muscle was building and doing its job, helping to burn calories when I was not at the gym. This is the time I started seeing the biggest gains, meaning lots of pounds being lost. So if you’re feeling stuck, and you’re giving it all you’ve got, just keep going…you WILL get there!!
Could I have lost (and continue to lose) the baby weight faster? YES.
But that would not have worked for me. There are some people that are super dedicated and have amazing will power. If you can limit the white carbs, eat boat loads of salads and veggies and lean proteins, YES, you can shed those pounds much faster than I did. (and am doing) But that just wasn’t going to work for my brain make up, my daily schedule with the kids, my stress triggers, or my life.
I’ve chosen to go a much slower route that allows for eating cupcakes with the Littles.
I’m trying to follow an “Everything in Moderation” direction towards losing the weight. I find that I can eat what I want, as long as it’s in moderation and as long as I’m working out.
And at the stage I’m at now, here’s what I notice about food and working out:
1. If I eat as I wish in moderation, and do not workout, I do not gain or lose weight.
2. If I eat as I wish in moderation, and workout, I lose a little weight each week.
3. If I eat all lean proteins, fruits and veggies, and do not workout, I lose a little weight each week
4. If I eat all lean proteins, fruits and veggies AND I workout, I lose a lot of weight each week.
So it’s really up to me how I want to lose the weight, just as it’s up to you to know what fits best in your life. Key is to DO IT.
Week 9 brought a few more encouraging photos…
The final photos were taken at the end of April around Week 18. This does not mean that I’ve stopped the journey, Heavens there is still MUCH to do, but I’m trying to make Lifestyle choices instead of “get rid of weight quickly and it will most likely come right back” choices.
1. I try to workout 3-4 times each week. Hubs and I alternating so that we can each get in some time.
2. The kids and I have a green smoothie each day.
3. I think about portion size.
4. I try to be strategic with meal planning…giving us healthy options that seem fun too (pizza with load of veggies in the marinara sauce).
5. Take a night off. Give yourself a reason to take a shower, dry your hair, get dressed and wear makeup. Doesn’t need to include sequins, you just need to feel good about yourself (and see that your favorite pair of jeans are in fact, feeling bigger and you’re getting smaller each week ~ that doesn’t happen in yoga pants!) Feeling cute does a WORLD of good for your psyche!
Again, this is where I started….
This is where I am at Week 18
Here are the stats “Then –> Now”:
Height: 5′ 10″
Weight: 173 –> 153
Shoulders: 44-3/4″ –> 40″
Chest: 40-3/4″ –> 38″
Waist ~ Smallest: 34″ –> 31-1/4″
Waist ~ Biggest: 42″ –> 37″
Hips: 42″ –> 40-1/4″
Thigh ~ Upper: 24-1/4″ –> 22-1/4″
Thigh ~ Mid: 19-1/4″ –> 18-1/4″
Calf: 12-3/4″ –> 10″
Arm: 11-3/4″ –> 10-1/4″
Body Fat: 31.13% –> 28%
Am I at pre-baby weight? No, still about 15 lbs to go. But to have lost the 20 lbs. so far??? I will take that accomplishment ALL DAY LONG! And knowing that I CAN lose it, will get me the rest of the way. And I’m pretty sure these 3 little monkeys will help keep me on my toes!
My biggest tip to you, find someone to keep you accountable (thank you Erica, from the bottom of my heart!!), and then just do it. It’s never easy to jump in the water, but it always feels better once you’re in!